Would you like to learn to stand up for your needs? 

Stop saying "yes" when you mean "no". Communicate your wants and needs in a way that makes you feel good. 

Many of us don't necessarily find it easy to assert ourselves and say what we mean in our professional and personal lives. Counselling to build your personal assertiveness will help you communicate clearly what you want and what you don't want to accept. You will learn to set healthy boundaries for yourself and become more aware of the boundaries of others. 
 

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Do you find it difficult to be assertive?

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Maybe you have never really thought about it before, maybe you have always said to yourself: "I like to be pleasant and keep the peace". However, do you find yourself in any of the following?

- I feel guilty when I say "no" to a request.
- I find it difficult to put myself first or to ask someone to do something for me.
-I agree to things I know I don't want to do or don't have time to do.
- I don't feel that people listen to my arguments or understand my point of view.
- I avoid any confrontation at work or in my private life.

These are just a few examples of behaviours that suggest you could learn to be more assertive and have more control over the decisions you want to make.
 

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Learning to be assertive starts with knowing your boundaries

Setting your boundaries may sound hard, but it is really about defining the limits of what you can and cannot accept, what you can accept and what you find unacceptable.

In counselling you will discuss the areas in your life where you interact with others and where you find it difficult to get the results you want, rather than giving in and feeling that you are always the one who has to 'give in'.

Being assertive and setting and maintaining your boundaries means learning to communicate clearly and without feelings of anger, shame or guilt what your needs are and where your boundaries lie.

The advantages of setting healthy boundaries

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There are many benefits to communicating your needs clearly and respecting and maintaining your boundaries:

- It builds self-esteem and self-confidence. 

- Helps to gain respect from others. 

- Understand and perceive your feelings better. 

- Make better and easier decisions for them. 

- To form more honest relationships. 

- Improve their communication. 

- Gives more satisfaction in general. 

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How counselling helps to improve self-assertion

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In counselling you will learn step by step to get more in touch with your own needs. You will learn to express your personal wishes and views, to be self-confident and to set boundaries.

If you communicate confidently and set your boundaries, you will not only have a better chance of being heard, but also of achieving your goal in the conversation or at least meeting your counterpart halfway.

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